How to treat the authority correctly issued a "forced" list of the provinces forced rate ranking Shaanxi did not list the original title: how to treat correctly the authority of the Department issued a "forced" list Chinese number list? I’m afraid no one can make it clear. This does not, even the "forced" also have a list. It is said that the country was forced to rate above 70%, the most serious forced phenomenon is Henan, second Sichuan, third Shandong, Guangdong and Jilin tied for fourth. Beijing, Shanghai and other first-tier cities forced rate is relatively low, but please note that this list of publishers, is a formal "authority", there is a certain authority. But my view is still the same: for such a list, we should be flat and mentality, do not take too seriously, from the middle to see some social problems on the line. First of all, "the source investigation report" is the status of China forced youth under the age of 40 in China, 1000 samples from each city. A city can be millions of people, tens of millions of people, the survey of 1000 samples can represent the whole city, such a sample number is too small in statistics, only reference. Secondly, please define what is called "forced"? I think, Zhu Yingtai’s father forced Zhu Yingtai to marry Ma Wencai, this is "forced"; Jia she, Mrs. Xing forced Yuanyang when small wife to Jia she, this is also "forced". As for the parents to urge their children to quickly fall in love, to get married, this is also forced to ask? Look around the characteristics of forced parents, also does not have the uniqueness. Sichuan parents love the family together, and launched the siege tactics; Shanghai parents are good at speech about marriage, like "monk chanting"; Guangxi parents is the "doer" forced. Don’t Sichuan people arrange blind dates for their children, and Guangxi’s parents don’t nag? I’m afraid it won’t be so absolute. But this list reflects the reality: on the one hand, many parents care about their children’s marriage; on the other hand, many children are disgusted by their elders’ concerns about their marriage, which is a social problem to be faced with. In fact, the two sides should understand each other, strengthen the "run in"". Parents care about their children’s marriage is correct, but must have the right way, respect for the child’s own attitude, only moderate remind and help, not to let the children stand; on the other hand, good children should understand the parents, Frank to communicate with their parents, parents have to understand. I believe that most of the parents, but is anxious, mouth nagging, it is defined as "forced", said a little. (Yin Guoan, Jiangsu) editor in chief: Li Qing SN219

如何正确看待权威部门发布的“逼婚榜” 全国各省逼婚率排行榜 陕西未上榜   原标题:如何正确看待权威部门发布的“逼婚榜”   中国有多少排行榜?恐怕没人说得清。这不,连“逼婚”也有了排行榜。据说全国各地被逼婚率均在 70%以上,逼婚现象最严重的是河南,第二是四川,第三是山东,广东和吉林并列第四。北京上海等一线城市的逼婚率相对较低,而且请注意,这个榜单的发布者,是一个正规“机关”,有一定的权威性。   不过我的看法还是那样:对这样的排行榜,我们应该持平和心态,不要太当真,从中间看到一些社会问题就行了。   首先,《中国逼婚现状调查报告》的来源则是针对国内 40 岁以下青年,每个城市 1000 份样本产生的。一个城市动辄几百万、上千万人口,调查1000份样本就能代表整个城市,这样的样本数在统计学上来说太小,仅具有参考意义。   其次,请界定一下什么叫“逼婚”?我觉得,祝英台的父亲逼迫祝英台嫁给马文才,这才是“逼婚”;贾赦、邢夫人等逼迫鸳鸯给贾赦当小老婆,这也是“逼婚”。至于父母催促子女赶快谈恋爱、抓紧结婚,这问一问难道也算逼婚吗?   再看各地父母逼婚的特点,也不具有唯一性。四川父母喜欢全家齐上阵,发动亲朋围攻战术;上海父母擅长用言语唠叨逼婚,就像“唐僧念经”一样;广西父母则是“实干派”强行做主。难道四川人就不为子女安排相亲,广西的父母就不唠叨?恐怕也不会这么绝对。   但这样的排行榜倒是反映了这样的现实:一方面是许多父母关心子女的婚姻,另一方面则是不少子女对长辈关切自己的婚姻很是反感,这倒是一个需要面对的社会问题。其实,双方应该互相理解,加强“磨合”。父母关心孩子的婚姻是正确的,但是要有正确的方式方法,尊重孩子自己的态度,只是进行适度的提醒和帮助,不可过度到让孩子受不了;另一方面,孩子也应该理解父母的苦心,坦诚和父母交流,取得父母的理解。   我相信,大多数父母不过是心里着急,嘴上唠叨,这就定义成“逼婚”,说过了一点。(江苏 殷国安) 责任编辑:李清 SN219相关的主题文章: